Xu Jinglei, developer of “Founder Jinglei Simplified Chinese”: My success comes from my father’s best education

British writer Ro Asham once said: "One example is worth twenty teachings."

The cultivation of parents is the education of children. The best education for children is to teach by words and deeds.

Parents are the best teachers for their children. From the smile of a baby in infancy to the words and deeds of adults, we are all deeply imprinted by our parents.

Teaching by words and deeds is worth a thousand words.

Xu Jinglei, known as one of China's "Four Famous Dancing Women", is not only beautiful, but has also been dubbed the "most talented woman". She is also proficient in acting, writing, and directing.

She has participated in films such as "Subway to Spring" and "Letter from a Strange Woman" which she directed and starred in in 2005. She won the Best Director Award at the "52nd San Sebastian International Film Festival" in 2017. Because of his clear and elegant calligraphy, he was developed into "Fang Zheng Jinglei Simplified". On July 20, 2017, the fourth step film "Du Lala's Promotion" won a box office of 100 million in mainland China, becoming the first in mainland China. A female director with a box office of over 100 million.

She said that her ability to live such a beautiful life was all due to her father's education, which allowed her to achieve what she has today.

Xu Zijian's education to Xu Jinglei was true words and deeds. He was not simply teaching or ordering her to do something or achieve any goals. He also worked harder and harder than Xu Jinglei and accompanied his daughter to persevere.

Xu Jinglei started learning calligraphy and practicing calligraphy at the age of six. She was often lazy at the beginning. In order to encourage her, her father, no matter how busy or tired he was, would write out pieces of paper for her while she was practicing calligraphy. Draw a grid for writing and let her practice in the grid, and she persisted for many years.

It was because of her father's constant companionship that inspired Xu Jinglei to practice calligraphy and do many things unremittingly, which led to her later success.

Host Yang Lan once said: "Don't put all your efforts into your children. If you are fulfilling, happy, kind and responsible, your children will imitate you."

Children will not only copy their parents' behaviors, but also the character, cultivation, and principles behind these behaviors.

The power of role models is the best way to educate

While waiting for the subway, a baby curiously asked what the footprints under his feet were for. His parents and grandma patiently explained to him that they were for queuing, and lined up neatly for the baby to see.

The baby saw his parents and grandma lining up in the direction of the footprints, so he unconsciously joined them. A family of four lined up in two neat rows, and people around them also praised their behavior. It was such a beautiful scenery.

Whether you are taking the subway or taking the bus, you should line up to get on the bus. There is no doubt that the children's parents and grandmothers have taught their children a good lesson through their own actions.

No matter how brilliant educational theory is, it is not as profound as action. If you want children to abide by the rules, the power of example is the best education.

The quality of a copy comes from the appearance of the original

It was the traffic light time. A 13-year-old child ran a red light and was stopped by the traffic police on duty. The traffic police patiently told him the dangers of running a red light.

A 13-year-old child should have the ability to distinguish right from wrong and recognize errors, but he does not. He insulted and kicked the traffic policeman. Finally, the traffic policeman had no choice but to bring him to the police station and contact his family.

The child said that the reason why he dared to run a red light on the highway was because of his mother. His mother was impatient, never looked at traffic lights, took chances and took advantage of every opportunity. He also learned from his mother when he insulted the traffic police. His mother often did this and never reflected on her mistakes.

In the end, the child's parents did not wait. The traffic police criticized and educated him, and the child realized his mistake and let him go.

Children are copies of their parents. Every word and deed of their parents has a subtle influence on what their children do in life. If you do the right thing, they will learn from you. If you do the wrong thing, they will still learn from you.

So how should we, as parents, teach through words and deeds:

First: Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. If you ask your children to do it, you must do it yourself first. If you don’t want to do it yourself, then what right do you have to ask others? An example is worth a thousand words.

If you want your children to be strong and healthy, then don't be lazy; if you want your children to be knowledgeable, courteous, humble and good, then don't be unreasonable; if you want your children to be outstanding and motivated, then be You should work hard to improve yourself first.

Second: You must do what you promise your children, do what you say, and be a person of your word.

The ancient story of "Zengzi killing pigs" is the best illustration. Zengzi's wife was going to the market, but her son kept crying and wanted to go with her. She coaxed her son and said, "If you are obedient and don't go with you, I will kill a pig for you to eat when you come back." The son was very happy and agreed.

After the wife came back from the market, she saw Zeng Zi really killing pigs, and she panicked: I was lying to him, why did you take it seriously? Zengzi ignored it and taught his wife, "Children learn from their parents. If you lie to him today, you are teaching him how to lie. He will never believe you again." In the end, the couple tried their best. , let the children have a good meal, and also let the children remember that as a person, you must do what you say and do what you do.

Third: Parents should constantly strengthen their personality cultivation. Because the personality of parents is the best education for children. In a shopping mall in Inner Mongolia, a boy accidentally knocked over the porridge in his hand. Although people in the shopping mall said that the cleaning staff would come to clean everything, the mother said: "You should be responsible for your actions." The child half-knelt down The action of wiping the ground carefully is like a real man. A bowl of spilled porridge is given different meanings just because the mother's education methods are different. This is a principle about upbringing.

Suhomlinsky once said: "At a certain moment, when you see your child, you also see yourself. When you educate your child, you educate yourself and test your personality."

Children's words and deeds can all find the answer in their parents. Good or bad, the children will accept them all. The family is a copy machine, the parents are the originals, and the children are the copies. If there is a problem with the copy, then we will definitely be able to find the root cause of the problem on the original.

Sun Jingxiu, a famous Chinese children's educator, once said: "Children's eyes are cameras and their brains are tape recorders. Your words and deeds are engraved on their hearts."

Therefore, teaching by words and deeds is very important!